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Not all family members leave behind a good impression when they pass away.

That's why one family didn't bother to hold a funeral service for Galveston resident Leslie Ray Charping, reports Houston Chronicle, after he died in late January.

His daughter, Sheila Smith, published a scathing obituary on the Carnes Funeral Home website earlier this week. She wanted to be sure the family was sending the right message to the Texas community after he died.

The obituary, dripping in sarcasm, was so popular that the funeral home's website was down for most of the weekend.

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His obituary read:

Leslie Ray “Popeye” Charping was born in Galveston on November 20, 1942 and passed away January 30, 2017, which was 29 years longer than expected and much longer than he deserved. Leslie battled with cancer in his latter years and lost his battle, ultimately due to being the horses a** he was known for. He leaves behind 2 relieved children; a son Leslie Roy Charping and daughter, Sheila Smith, along with six grandchildren and countless other victims including an ex wife, relatives, friends, neighbors, doctors, nurses and random strangers.

At a young age, Leslie quickly became a model example of bad parenting combined with mental illness and a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing and being generally offensive. Leslie enlisted to serve in the Navy, but not so much in a brave & patriotic way but more as part of a plea deal to escape sentencing on criminal charges. While enlisted, Leslie was the Navy boxing champion and went on to sufficiently embarrass his family and country by spending the remainder of his service in the Balboa Mental Health Hospital receiving much needed mental healthcare services.

Leslie was surprisingly intelligent, however he lacked ambition and motivation to do anything more than being reckless, wasteful, squandering the family savings and fantasizing about get rich quick schemes. Leslie's hobbies included being abusive to his family, expediting trips to heaven for the beloved family pets and fishing, which he was less skilled with than the previously mentioned. Leslie's life served no other obvious purpose, he did not contribute to society or serve his community and he possessed no redeeming qualities besides quick whited sarcasm which was amusing during his sober days.

With Leslie's passing he will be missed only for what he never did; being a loving husband, father and good friend. No services will be held, there will be no prayers for eternal peace and no apologies to the family he tortured. Leslie's remains will be cremated and kept in the barn until “Ray”, the family donkey's wood shavings run out. Leslie's passing proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time of healing and safety for all.

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In an interview with KTRK, Smith said she was not sorry for writing the obituary. Her father had been verbally and physically abusive to her and other members of the family:

“For someone that knew him and family members that knew him, and to see something on there was a complete lie, would’ve been an insult to everyone that he did bad things to and there was a lot of them [...] I couldn’t write that in good conscience because it’s not going to bring closure to anyone or to myself.”

It took Chirping's death for Smith and her family to finally speak out against the domestic violence they experienced.

While the obituary has been met with mixed review, many commenters have taken to the side of the family for speaking out.

Smith hopes that her father's obituary can help send a message to the many people who are living with domestic violence in their homes as she said, “when you don’t talk about it and you don’t acknowledge the problem even exists, it just grows.”

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, there are an estimated 10 million domestic violence victims every year. Domestic violence impacts every community, regardless of race, class, age, or economic status.

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Angela Schuyler(24 likes)So many comments here turning victims into the bad guys. How dare you try to turn blame on the mother?!?! If you have never been in the situation you have no room to judge. Take a second and read about living with a narcissist. Read about how they control every aspect of your life. A lot of victims of physical abuse are afraid to leave because they are told they will be killed. And do you know that domestic violence wasn't illegal until recently. Meaning this mother wouldn't have received an order of protection or help. She would have been told to go home and be a better wife. This mans mental illness should never be used as an excuse for why he abused his family and animals and friends and just regular people He came across. After all these years this woman finally stood up for herself against her father. The only thing that makes me sad is that it was in his obituary and he didn't get to hear the hurt he caused. 
Cherie Wolf-Rash(19 likes)It's easy to judge the family, if you have never lived with domestic violence.  If you have you realize that they make you feel as if it is all your fault.  They hold a power over you.  They leave you in a situation that is very hard to escape.  You have no money, you feel there is no place to turn.  Please do not judge if you haven't walked in their shoes, and if you have, show a little sympathy.  Maybe share your story and how you became strong enough to survive.
Ilse Dujmovic(19 likes)I have always wondered why when some  people die they suddenly become saints though throughout their lives they have been evil nasty all of their lives. I applaud this young woman to write the obituary that is honest and from the heart. And finally can talk about the abuse she and others have suffered at this mans hand.