Having Experienced Both Thin and Fat, This Mom Says She's Now 'Fat And Happy'

| FEB 20, 2015 | 5:26 PM

Just before her 35th birthday, California mom Joni Edelman was the smallest she'd been in her adult life.

Image Credit: Joni Edelman
Joni Edelman

Writing on her blog on Ravishly, Edelman states:

And yet, I looked at this photo after it was taken and thought I looked fat.

To maintain that body, she ate only 1,000 calories a day, ran 35 miles a week, only slept three hours a night, and lost her period. While she easily found clothes that fit, she says having a perfect body did not equal happiness. She explains:

"My being thin did not make me happy.

It made me obsessive about every detail of my body, from my stretch-marked belly to the definition of my bicep.

It made me a lot of things.

It did not make me happy."

Since that photo was taken, and through the roller coaster of life (marriage, divorce, loss of a child, job stresses) Edelman gained weight.

Image Credit: Joni Edelman
Joni Edelman

She says that now, without having to count every calorie or obsess about her body, she is happier than when she was thin:

“There is a stillness, a joy, and a peace I've never had. It's worth 10 pounds. Ten pounds are insignificant when compared to my willingness to let some things go, to sit with my kids, to sleep.”

Her advice to people struggling with their weight and looking for a magic pill:

"You want to really blow people's minds? Try this at home: Be fat and happy. Be unapologetically fat. Wear a bikini, and mean it. Eat pizza and ice cream and enjoy it. Drink up your life and a bottle of wine, and make no apologies.

The world wants you to want to be thin. There are whole industries built on your insecurity. They are bullshit. The world wants you to believe that thin and beautiful equals happy. It wants you to believe that you're only worthy of love, and life, if you are beautiful. And beautiful people just aren't fat.

Or maybe they are."

“Happy fat women” like Joni Edelman and Tess Munster are making their presence known, and not a moment too soon for ladies who are holding themselves to unrealistic expectations of perfection.

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