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She tweeted that she's “so, so sorry,” and it's only natural that the distraught 23-year-old's mind would be filled with all the “what ifs.”
What if I hadn't scheduled a concert for that night? What if I'd sang one less song? What if I'd sang one more song?
All of the “what ifs” lead to one conclusion: what if I'd done something differently and this never happened? While no rational person would ever lay an ounce of blame at her feet, tragedy is frequently irrational.
However, one dad penned an open letter on Twitter to explain, without any confusion, the role, or lack there of, that she played in this horrific event.
Patrick Millsaps, father of three daughters, is no stranger to Grande's music or career and wrote:
Since you are a part of our family and after reading a tweet you posted on Twitter the other night; I'm afraid I need to set you straight girl. So listen up and receive some redneck love from a daddy of daughters.
His letter outlined three lessons for the young singer:
- You don't have anything to apologize for.
- Spend time with God, family, and friends — not the people who work for you.
- When you are ready ... Sing again.
Millsaps wrote that what happened is no different than a drunk driver killing someone next to her hotel or if a tornado tragically hit and killed people who were going to her concert. He explained:
You see, you are no more responsible for the actions of an insane coward who committed an evil act in your proximity than you would be for a devastating natural disaster or acts of morons near your hotel.
The father issued a bit of tough love in regard to her tweet and continued, “Your text was some stinkin' thinkin' in that regard.”
He acknowledged that she probably has experts “strategizing” about what to do next and suggested she give them the month off and tell them “if they call you within the next 30 days, they are fired.”
Instead of being surrounded by people who are trained to think about her as a business, Millsaps recommended surrounding herself with the people who have always thought of her as a person:
Spend time with your God, your family and your friends who will give you space and support when you need it.
Finally, he instructed her to sing again, whenever she felt ready. He wrote that “music is the international language of peace” and told her: “Take care of you first. Your fans aren’t going anywhere.”
The letter got the attention of many celebrities, including the young singer, who seems to have heeded his advice. On Tuesday, Grande announced she'll join other performers and be back in Manchester on Sunday, June 4, for a tribute concert.