By that logic then King David isn't in haven since he had wives and stolen one wife, yet God called him a man after His own heart. Now I'm not condoning their sin, but it doesnt mean that they arent Christians. We dont know their hearts, so we can't judge who are saved and who are not. We can love them and show them by being an exampl, but it's the Holy Spirit's job to convic people, not ours.
There is nothing in the bible that says monogamy is the only option. Polygamy was an accepted practice among early Christians. Paul even commented that a *bishop* should have only one wife because otherwise he wouldn't have time for his ecclesiastical duties. Monogamy didn't become part of Church teaching until the 4th century AD. It was never part of Jesus' teaching.
I'm sorry but you need to read the bible again. The bible does not say anywhere in it to give yourself only to one man/ woman. Those are precepts written into doctrine by man. By the ruling classes who defined new religions.
Abraham had 42 wives, Isaac had 13, Moses had 6, it was the way of the world for centuries before modern religion. And neither the bible nor Christ spoke out against it. As a matter of fact it wasn't until more modern iterations of the Catholic church that monogamy became a core defining value.
The bible gives rules on how wives are to respect their husbands ( which many women refuse to follow) and rules on how men are to provide abs support their wives. And also guidelines for marital success and purity. But NOWHERE does it say that you are bound only to one man and one woman.
You are right. Being white, heterosexual, and monogamous is not "in" anymore. In fact, these values are under full assault from the progressive, liberal, militant left. They preach tolerance, but will tolorate only the things they want or deem necessary or "right". They shove this type of living down conservative people's throats and expect us to just take it. The pendulum is going to end up swinging back when we -the conservative "freaks"- can take no more. The sad thing is that I could care less what other people want to do with their lives. They just should go about it with out making a big deal, but its as if they want to make people uncomfortable, and therfore start drama over the situation.
I'm a straight,white, male,eagle scout,i own several firearms and im probly on the same government naughty lists as any conservative but I do not and will not discriminate against anyone's sexuality or relationships unless they are a pedophile or something. They deserve to be happy just as much as anyone else and what works for them might not for you but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed to do what makes them happy. For everyone saying they feel sorry for the children the pictures are self explanatory adults can fake smiles kids are much more honest and everyone of them looks happy as could be.
Nobody should have a problem with you being traditional I certainly don't but by the same token you shouldn't discriminate against what makes other people happy everyone deserves the same chance at happiness. Those kids will most likely grow up to be perfectly normal kids. Studies on children raised by same sex parents show they are actually more successful in academics than others this isn't the same thing but I don't know why this would negatively impact them. Those children look perfectly happy.
@Otis Shiller, it's California with a C and stop stereotyping everyone based on Hollywood or whoever it is. No, I'm not a lefty nor am I a freaking conservative. And no the facts are in history talk to a historian. Homosexuality has existed since the beginning of time, kings and emperors had sex with the same gender, people knew about it and they didn't make a big deal about it, it was considered normal. Also, no where in this article does it says that the two men have sex with each other, is it possibl, maybe. Is it also possible that they both have sex with her at the same time without touching each other, possibly. These are things that only they know. While I wouldn't be able to do such a thing because once you marry someone, that's supposed to be it, your one true love, no, I'm not a very religious person but I just think that personally. I could never do that to my husband and honestly I would be angry if he would even bring it up. Anyhow, that's just me personally, yet I really do know some people who have some kind of arrangement and they seem happy with their choices, if that's what makes them happy then let them be, we are no one to judge them, that doesn't make them bad people. Yes, spouses have cheated on each other for centuries too, that's nothing new. I'm actually more concerned about pedophiles or parents who abuse their kids, rather than these trio who seem happy and whose children also seem happy.
That's an awful lot of assumptions on your part Otis. You have no idea what 'marketable skills' these men have, what they did before marriage and children or what they plan to do once the kids are older. You also have no idea whether they are going to home school/public school/private school their children. What exactly have you based these assumptions on?
Just for the record; your views are not 'traditional' they are outdated.
They don't appear to have any marketable skills? Is that what you think about stay-at-home moms too? Are you really that threatened by the possibility that a woman in a relationship would be able to make enough to support her family leaving her husband(s) free to choose to stay at home raising the kids?
It's called parenting. My husband stays home with our daughter while I go out and do things. I stay home with her while he goes out and does things. These two are awesome for their ability to be actual dads rather than just two people who donated sperm and then leave everyday. If this works for them, I'm glad they've stepped up.
Yes, because 5 children were created because they just wanted a sugar mama, especially since one of the men was married to her for *YEARS* and already had 2 kids with her before he "revealed" his relationship with this other guy to her, first under the guise of friendship. That's one heck of a long con for these two guys. ?Do you realize how stupid that sounds? A more likely scenario is the men are bisexual, and all are wired for poly, so they are attracted to and love both her and eachother. Or they are just wired for poly, and they all love each other with the men loving each other platonically, and love her romantically and sexually as well, or it's possible the men are what has been often called selectively bisexual.
It may not be "traditional", but that doesn't mean it's wrong. Traditions change. It doesn't matter if it's traditional. All that matters is does it work for them, and is anyone being harmed? It works for them, and no one is being harmed.
Why would you think anyone is "in power" in a home? That has got to be one of the craziest things I've every heard. In a family no one is, or should be, "in power" in a home. With adults "power" is shared equally in the home.
An explanation of the term "selectively bisexual": The name is somewhat misleading because the term "selectively" implies choice, when it's really not. It usually happens in poly relationships, when you have two (possibly more, but usually the number is low only 2 or 3) people who are straight, and of one gender, sharing one partner of the other gender. It especially happens is relationships where they all have sexual relations at the same time, and sleep together. So, like threesomes. Rules and restrictions are often set, and very strictly held to (especially at first) about where and when the two straight people of the same gender can touch each other while having sexual relations with the partner of the opposite gender. Through these intimate encounters, and day to day family life, sometimes these (under any other circumstances) straight people who would never fall in love with or be attracted to someone of the same sex, end up falling romantically in love with just this one other person (possibly 2) of the same gender. They often won't have full sexual relations with each other, but if the partners are into BDSM as well will sometimes help in the scenes, especially the nonsexual parts (note: not all poly relationships are also into BDSM, and BDSM is not always related to sex), but they often share small signs of affection with each other such as hand holding, causaul touching (putting arms around each other and things like that), the occasional kiss, etc.
Women do have the power. They have more power than men do in society. They are spared the death penalty in murder cases. They are exempt from signing up for selective serive. When they commit the same crime as a man they get less time. Even if they are the mastermind. Don't tell me women are powerless.
Just another globalist promo against Christianity and the biblical family unit. The social engineering on tv is so obvious. My first thought when I saw the pic of Chad and Jeremy was that they were gay lovers. Then I read that they are both stay at home "dads"while she is the breadwinner. I'm betting they're is a LOT more to this story.
The "Biblical Family Unit" only applies to believers of the Christian faith, and that standard does not apply anywhere outside of that, nor is it an intrinsically superior value to any other value. You thought they were gay lovers becayse your brain has a bias, and you are already making assumptions about the life of someone else, why? Are you that bored with your own life that this affects you in any meaningful way? Traditional values are literally old and out-dated. Values are not eternal and they never will be.
I have a friend with 2 wives and 3 children between them. The oldest of these children just aced their ACT and graduated valedictorian from their top notch private high school. These children have loving parents who obviously care for them and for each other. I am sure they will grow up to be understanding and caring individuals.
How is this a tragedy for the children? More parents to love and protect them. How horrible? More parents they can talk to, get support from, help with homework, help support with hobbies, more parents to spend one on one quality time with, more parents to bond and love. Every child should have such a "tragedy" of riches like this.
They wrote the article in an honest manner. Not a sympathetic one. Simply because they didn't tint it with your negative bias doesn't mean it was sympathetic. It was actually pretty non-biased either way.
For more people than you think this *is* normal behavior. Not everyone is wired for manogamy. This is much better than forced monogamy, where people go out and cheat on their spouse, or people doing "serial monogamy" where they stay for a year or two, maybe have a kid, then someone else catches their fancy, and since they have been conditioned by society that "you can only be with one person" so they walk away to the next where they repeat process, and never talk to their partners and consider they could find someone who either is cool with an open relationship or another form of poly relationship, and they can have the multiple partners they are wired for, and raise a happy beautiful family.
These relationships take a LOT of communication and brutal honesty, but can be very rewarding if you are wired for it. I know several of these relationships, and while not for my husband or myself, they are happy, healthy, normal relationships, some who have lasted multiple decades, which is longer than most "traditional" relationships. Their children are normal, happy, healthy, and better adjusted than many kids that come from "traditional" homes.
Oh yes, such a tragedy that these children have more love and more support. Such a tragedy that they have not one, not two but three parents to turn to for whatever they need.
FFS, with all the kids out there whose parents are miserable together or whose parents use them as pawns against the other after an ugly divorce or who're left with only one parent when the other up and left, these are the kids you're worried about? Get some perspective!
Teen mothers having nothing to do woth this, and have virtually always existed. Your "slippery slope" nonsense is crap. Sister wives and brother husbands, as long are all are legal consenting adults that went into the relationship fully informed and giving their full, willful, informed consent nothing is wrong with this. This not like FLDS cults where they force 15 year old girls to marry their own 65 year old uncles (who may very well also be their own grandfathers too, and where they are given no choice).. Also, no one is going to be doing "my goat and me" because as an animal they can't give informed consent. Neither can minors so you won't find any sane person okaying thing like pedophila, and it's usually religious fundies that promote pederast (see the lead Duck Dynasty guy, or cults like the Quiverfull movements or FLDS).
How about a 17 year old girl who aced the ACT, graduated valedictorian and has offers from some of the top colleges in the country with full rides? Because that's what a friend of mine's oldest daughter is doing and she is from a home with 3 parents (2 wives).
The effect it will have is showing them true love. Showing them that they have 3 people who love, support, and protect them unconditionally and that they shouldn't be judgmental of other people, especially if no one is getting hurt, and no one is getting hurt here.
Actually she wants to follow in her mother's footsteps and become a preacher. She's a wonderful, accepting and understanding young lady. They're a wonderful family with no judgment on others who attend church, do charity work and treat people with kindness. Thankfully nothing like you or the other negative commenters on this thread.
That they are supportive of what people need to live comfortable and be happy, while also being nonjudgmental and helping others and standing for their rights, even if hat they do wouldn't be right for you, so long as no one is being harmed (they aren't)? Yeah, told me that too.
I don't understand how this can work but if they can make it work then more power to them. It is funny that Cody Brown got upset about this scenario. Don't get me wrong, I couldn't be in a relationship like either this one or Brown's. Their mistake is putting it out there for everyone to see. If the Brown's hadn't had a TV show few people would know the truth about their situation. The same holds true for this trio. IF they had let well enough alone few would know the truth about it. The spotlight can cause more damage than people think it can. It revealed that Jon of Jon & Kate plus 8 was a shallow person who didn't want to take responsibility for his family. Kate may have been bitchy but I challenge anyone to try and take care of 6 babies at once without a strict schedule. When one of my best friends got a divorce she and her ex made it a point to maintain a good relationship for their son. Within two years he had four adults who loved him and were on the same page about his upbringing. At this point those children have three adults who love them. For the sake of those children I hope things work out.
Well, this is weird. Not good, not bad. I neither condone nor condemn. If it makes them happy, fine. Obviously, the wife is getting the best out of everything. She is the breadwinner and has two "men" taking care of her and her kids. Can't beat that. Meanwhile, the "men" certainly do not match my definition of what being a real man is all about. I guess if you can stand being a cuckold, then, well, more power to you.
As a polyamorous person myself, I and my amazing wife live with another couple. We are all four in a relationship. My wife dates both of the other couple and I date the wife of the other couple. The four of us are in what is known as a Quad.
Her husband is like my brother, and he and I are not in the least attracted to each other.
The 4 of us have been together for over a year, and while, yes we have had challenges, (mainly who's supposed to do the dishes) we are all very much in love with each other.
More than 20% of Americans are polyamorous or practice some sort of ethical non-monogamy. It is not just about sex. Some people simply have the maturity to realize that love has no limits and that it is a beautiful thing to be able to love who you love.
If you are interested morethantwo.com and PolyAskery.com has great resources to learn more about polyamory.
Did I say anything about our relationship being an example of longevity? How in the world does longevity have anything to do with the success of a relationship?
Just because a relationship lasts 20 years doesn't make it a successful relationship. It is the Quality, not quantity. 20 years means crap if 15 are spent miserable and only together for kids.
Success in a relationship should be based on the amount of good times that the people within have together. What did the people in the relationship walk away with? Good memories? Or bitter endings?
Success is about Quality. Not Quantity. Get over yourself.
This wouldn't work for me. It flies in the face of Gods laws, mans laws, a normal life for your children...etc. This is what has fed the disease and decay in this nation. My wife is my best friend. I would have violated Gods law by breakin his legs when he told me he loved my wife. But I would have broke
People love to say live and let live if those involved are happy. Baloney! This is not just about the adults or their children. It's about society as a whole. These folks and their practices impact social norms and not for the better. Somethings are just morally wrong and must not be made to appear normal. Keep it in the garbage can with the lid on
Hey people, I voted for President Trump. If these people are happy and not hurting anyone then it's their business. IMO, those of you who are hating on them have your own narrow paradigm of how things ought to be.
While you quote scripture as you condemn someone bear in mind your book may be the only one you read but there are other books out there. There's 1.5 Billion people who also have a book. They are also very intolerant and quote their scripture as they condemn people.
You may not like being compared to Jihadis but the attitudes are the same. Thankfully Western Civilization evolved so that you no longer have the power to conduct witch burning or inquisition.
This maybe one of the worse things I have read on the internet. Justifying bad behavior and sin as act of kindness. Disguising something to be normal when it is not, Christian when it is not, healthy when it is not! Many mistakes made by this young couple and plenty more that are likely not being told. In advance, if you are upset with my response, then I suggest not to tell this story, because a story like this deserves to be rebuked. Shaking my head at the selfishness of these adults.
The Bible also says that it's a sin to judge people there is only one judge at the gates of heaven. the bible also says that all sins are equally as bad so why is everyone on here saying they are not christian. Jesus is the only man to not sin! Does this mean you are not christia?
No, the Bible never says it is a sin to judge another. After the partial verse that you are undoubtedly halfway quoting... "Judge not..." Lest you also be judge by the same measure" That verse simply says not to judge if you are not prepared to be judged by the same rules. AFTER that verse, in the same Sermon on the Mount, Jesus/Y'shua goes on to instruct you on how to be worthy to be a good judge of people and their actions.
You mean unlike all those one man and one woman couples where the relationships ends in a great way where dad rapes and beats mom to death in front of the kids, and he regularly beat her in front of them, but she stays "for the kids" like you hear about ALL THE TIME? This relationship is likely actually less likely to end violently because those in it are less able to abuse one partner, and they are careful to avoid jealousy. If it did end whoever left would end up with visitation for their biological children, and if everyone really cares about the good of the children visitation with ALL the children because since they share a home the children will likely equally end up bonding equally with both men as their father.
Or maybe the one where the wife is about to be divorced, because the husband couldn't keep up with her demands and he ends up dead? Yeah sure you can go about thinking with feminization and how it's only held by the male end of a relationship. Truth of the matter is when it is stated that she makes a schedule to make time for both of them on means that someone was feeling left out. Stay blinded by the obvious, but it could have a catastrophic ending and the only ones who get lost in the story are the children.
What did the USSC expect when they destroyed the definition of marriage?
All I see are a couple of cucks and a faithless woman who doesn't truly didn't mean her vows.
Unfortunately the children are going to be raised in this environment and expect the same when they are mature.
Hi - ummm I didn't know y'all were Jesus and God. Marriage is an absolute joke now - look at the divorce rate, blended families and abused and discarded partners. If they truly love one another and hurting no one but small minded people then let them live their lives. Most children don't even have one parent (father or mother) these kids have 3!! Let it go and live your own life.
Sorry Coongirl but what about in the days of king davidKing David or Solomon when they had hundreds of concubines? Remember that was...ok. but if I was this woman's husband I would be like um nope if you 2 love eachother then get married but I'm out. I will never share my husband with another woman nor will I ask him to share me with another man. This now and back then are both effed up.
This is laughable. The scriptures tell us to join together as a husband and wife, and to be husbands of ONE wife. I understand some who haven't read the Bible don't know that but I have and it's very clear on what God requires of us, his creation. This is not an acceptable lifestyle by Gods standards. And its sad that they either don't know that, or have turned their backs on their upbringing :(
I voted for trump.I'm a straight, white, male, eagle scout who owns plenty of guns and im probly on the same government naughty lists that the conservatives are but I was taught respect and tolerance and I refuse to discriminate against anyone's sexuality or relationship choices unless your a pedophile or something. If they are happy there's nothing wrong with it what works for them might not work for you but that doesn't mean it's wrong. For everyone saying they feel bad for the children the pictures are self explanatory adults may be able to fake smiles but young children are much more honest and they look happy as could be.
Seems like alot of y'all, so called Christian folks, are throwing stones, and letting your butts speak for you. Those who live in Glass Houses should not throw stones. Jesus said we must Love one another, not condemn them. I, as a Christian, can not believe how much judgement is being spewed.
Cody Brown got all upset & said a situation like this was too vile for him to even comprehend, when one of his wives asked him how he'd feel if their roles were reversed, & he had brother husband's instead of her having sister wives.. Hmmm, well at least this way (didfferentdad's) the kids are much cuter than with one husband & 4-5 wiv
Hey if it works for those people ok but I would definitely watch the kids. Yes they look fine in those posed photos . This sounds more like some sort of reality show stunt. Besides that one guy looks really gay so this will probably all go away soon
It's not our position to judge whether or not these people are saved by grace or not. Saying they are not Christians? Which one of you Christians in this comment section will cast the first stone? Is this non-Biblical? Sure. Is it antithetical to a proper relationship with God? Maybe. Does it make these people less saved? Not for you to decide.
All that said, this is entirely unsurprising. Both of these gentlemen look like they're into buttstuff.
Man, you sound like a insecure misogynist.
You do know it is the 21st century right? Women can be working mom's and men can stay at home and take care of kids. It doesn't make the men not "men". It just means she can work and make enough money so that the kids have two parents who are at home at all times.
I see many comments referring to the old testament as a reference for poligamy but there was never a time when God allowed the sharing of a women. It was sinful when King David sleep with another man's wife. It was sinful when King David's son slept with his father's concubine. In all cases, there was never a relationship of one wife, two men. That being said, Jesus was a game changer. We live under the new covenant not the old law. Jesus said to look upon another with lust in your heart was adultery. All who say this relationship is Biblical, truly doesn't know their Bible.
Why does anyone care? It isnt your life its theirs, I dont understand why people judge others because THEY dont think its right, again so what it isnt your life so your opinion doesnt really matter. They want to do it let em do it lol. Good for them for making it work out. If you dont like it boohoo... Not your marriage, so technically you dont really have a say in what is right or wrong, everyones rights and wrongs are different. Js...
Get over yourselves who even cares there not hurting you screw your views live your own lives I'm really sad you people think your opinions or views even matter in the situation because they don't mind don't nobody's does these three people did what they wanted to do and what they felt comfortable with and that's all that matters not Tom Dick or Sherry's point of you get over yourselves
I guess I'm the dumb ass - My opinion is simple - Do what's right for YOU, live your life to the fullest. Peoples opinions are just that - opinions and when they become perfect, as well as pay my bills - pay attention them then and only then.
They are very brave to be open to friends, family, and the world about their non-traditional situation. People are extremely judgemental (just read the discussion here) and society has a tendancy to punish those who find happiness outside a narrow definition of what is acceptable. I think they may have a long road ahead of them. I wish them strength and continued joy in each other to sustain them. Much happiness and good wishes!
Ever think maybe they are BISEXUAL? So they are all attracted to each other. The men are attracted to her and each other? It's also more than possibly they are both totally straight and in love with her.
The only one not being honest is you! Believing you know more about them than they know about themselves. Your god calls on you to be humble, but that is quite some hubris you have going on there to think you know them better than they know themselves. Way to "follow" your god's rules.
They are hurting NO ONE, so there is NOTHING wrong with their relationship.
This is wrong on so many levels!! My opinion, of which I'm allowed. I think if ppl were honest with themselves they'd admit, pics show these guys are gay! And I Know It says that the couple have been together for a long time and married for a long time and all that bull! But how many times have gay people been in a relationship that is not a homosexual relationship for an extended period of time only come out and say that they were homosexual the whole time! And they would not be the first gay people to engage with a person that they are not the same sex so that they can have kids! These people were dmittedly being honest with themselves they know, not because people are making them feel bad, but they know deep down inside what they're doing is wrong and that all of this it's just some sick crap that Satan has got them walking through
Like I said it's my opinion that I am allowed like you are allowed your opinion! And I'm not judging I'm just calling a spade a spade! And not saying that thier sin is any better or any worse than mine. But wrong is wrong no matter which way you put it and how do you know they're not hurting anybody..You know them!?! And I know God's word and I know the lies that come from the pit of Hell from Satan I've experienced them personally and anything and everything I said has nothing to do whether or not I'm humble. Apparently you must have meant to use a different word. And I am following God's word if you knew anything about it you would know I am we are supposed to call Sin for what it is!! To be a voice calling out in the wilderness! And if you don't think this world is a Wilderness where people are dying off daily and diving into the pit of Hell because they are believing the lies from the pit of Hell then you are more blind than you ever thought you could be!
SO right, Charlie Sutton. Most of the posters here are apparently ignorant of the teachings of the Bible-like on subject of polygamy -which was allowed in the O.T. because of "hard hearts," or Jesus's admonition to not judge-He told the prostitute to "go and sin no more." People just want permission to do whatever sinful thing they want-indicating to me, at least, we could well be in the last days of planet Earth..! The ones who will suffer are those children, without a doubt.
Another sick story from the land of perverted sickness, California. This is just another reason why intelligent people have no regard for the media. Some half assed journalist decides to print a story that would not interest the majority of decent people. Who needs to be informed of what people do in their private lives but other perverts with no life of their own.
Judgmental much! If you count yourself as decent folk then you just contradicted yourself by even commenting. If you think they are perverts because they CHOSE to be honest and outspoken about THIER relationship then it also makes you a pervert for actually reading and responding to this article.
People who are commenting thier prejudice views are funny. All you that are quoting the bible to justify your prejudice and ignorance are acting like you are God or Jesus himself. Who are you to judge someone else's actions? Who are you to call what they are doing wrong, or sick, or against God? Are you a saint who has never in your life done anything someone else viewed the same way? Are you in a perfect relationship that you know FOR A FACT that God would find right? Are you in God's mind? Do you actually know his will?
No one, not one person alive knows FOR A FACT what God views as good or bad! Man wrote the bible NOT GOD! Man has been spreading the so called words of God all these years, NOT GOD! Please do not assume to know or understand these people's relationship among themselves, thier children, or with God! Only God has the right to judge our worthiness! Only God can decide if what we do is a damnation and will take us to hell! God, not you or me for that matter!
When or if you become God, you will have the right to judge someone else based on thier actions! Until then it is your own biases, views, prejudice, and ignorance that guide what you say about others decisions about thier own lives. Casting a stone when you yourself would not like to be judged in the same way.
Like I said you nor I are God therefore no one knows anything about thier relationships with God, themselves, or thier children.
Also saying those children are damned because of thier parentage is just plain stupid. Children around the world are raised up differently! Grow up differently! End up differently! Even children who grew up in the same lifestyle, same church, same community do not always end up the best of people later in life. THEY CHOOSE who they become, we all choose who we become! It is all about choice!
G-d gave us a plan for our lives, Rosebud, called the Bible, wherein there is NO plan for one woman to have sex with two men, support them, provide for all the children. Perhaps a terrific sex life, but-sooner or later she will get sick of it...then what!? Polygamy was allowed due to the "hard hearts" of men, period, completely blown out of the water by Jesus who said even "lust in the heart" for another man's woman is adultry, a grave sin in G-d's eyes. G-d's plan is STILL one man, one woman, for life-not this mess. The children will suffer in the long run because it is oppositional to what G-d said is healthy, for all of us...
What happened to not judging others? That's in the Bible too. They are just as Christian as my lesbian partner and I are...and as our parents who have been in marriages for many years are. Stop judging others! That makes YOU a hypocrite!
Eh more disgusting perversions that are made acceptable by a persons own selfish and evil desires instead of Gods instructions. Truly sad to see them making so many mistakes with their lives and chalking it up to "different" instead of "wrong"
Lot of closed-minded religious assholes worried about what an old sand nomad book translated 100s of times for various purposes have something to say. So do I and it's not shitting on the happiness of others based on what my imaginary friend says/
Congratulations on finding and creating MORE happiness and love in this world, we need more like you! <3
The biggest concern I have is that with so little support from their family and friends, they will have difficulty handling what would otherwise be ordinary challenges of family life. As Amanda said, they “are making it up as they go along.” When they run into a snag, who do they turn to? If they need counseling, how many counselors would understand their situation.
There are many resources available for people who are following a polyamorous lifestyle, that can help them gain the communication skills, emotional resources, and practical knowledge to make their relationship work well. One of the best books on polyamory is "More Than Two", by Veaux and Rickert. There are also lists of poly-friendly counselors, and support groups for people in polyamorous relationships in many parts of the country. And for an overview of the many resources available, www.polyinfo.org offers a great place to start.
Some people are monogamous and some are not. It's not that big of a deal. This trio thinks they are breaking new ground, but this has been around for thousands of years. I see a lot of people with an ownership mentality. Not sure how that is moral at all.
Sorry, they are not "one of the first to live this life style"...I had a very similar situation back in 1990 and appeared on Us daytime tv shows, in a German documentary and Time magazine before these stories were reality tv shows.
I married my high school sweet heart at 21, had 2 children and lived a pretty trational monogamous life in Ohio, until we met the man who would join our family and become the father of my third child while we lived in a polygamous family. It was the most beautiful loving time of my entire life, and one the most challenging, growing times as well. I went on to become the owner/editor of Loving More magazine the only international publication that supported this lifestyle. And I am so delighted whenever I see stories of families like this making it into 'mainstream' consciousness.
I don't understand the big deal here. 3 people love each other and are happy. That's awesome. You people that have a problem with this are weird. What do you have to do to twist this in your head into something bad? Whatever it is, stop doing it. Grow up. Poly is fine, you're the weird one.
As a Satanist, I find out offensive that these children are forced to live in a household where they're forced to go to church. It's unambiguously clear that going to church is far greater moral hazard. Anyone paying the slightest bit of attention and applying the slightest critical thought will understand immediately that polyamory is fine and church is dangerous. It's sad to see so many people so morally warped.
It's neat to see my own family structure in a show, they're not the first family like this, there are many of us living normal lives. Just with a lot more laundry. And for all the people "worried" about the kids, our kids are fine, we'll adjusted and polite. They love that there is always someone to pick them up from school, there is always a parent able to help them with homework, there is always someone avaliable. Even with the challenges, I wouldn't change our family for anything.
Good for them but definitely not the first or even one of the firsts to live like this. Polyamory isn't a new thing. People have been hooking up in all sorts of configurations throughout history. That having been said, everyone should make up their own rules for their own relationships. Instead of just assuming the same set works for everyone, figure out what works for you and build from there with like-minded folk.