Exactly why more people do not want to become foster parents. Nine years - comething wrong with this picture. If the mother could not get her stuff together in less than 9 years, there is a problem and I would bet is still has not been solved. Quit messing with the minds and lives of these children.
We are having to give Our Grandchildren back to their Mom after 3 years, age 9, 10, they dont want to go, after all the abuse, moving home to home, from their abusive dad to other men, and being abandoned twice, we fought and fought in court, but Supreme Court says as long as parent can show a job, house, car, food, they go back, Grandparents rights less and less. Children were so happy here! I feel so bad for them, the 17 year old doesn't have to go back he will turn 18 before school is out! And, he feels bad for his siblings, the youngest has been diagnosed with Anxiety and PTSD , and abandonment issues. Poor guy, NO ONE WOULD READ THE CHILDREN'S LETTERS THAT THEY WROTE THE JUDGE, NOR LISTEN TO THE OLDEST ONES STORIES, NOR THE OTHERS STORIES, THE Child Services did nothing when the 10 year old told them her dad was touching and messing with her and she told her Mom, and her Mom said, BULL POOP,! And psychiatrist said it was true!! Sad isn't it! Makes me sick!!! I hate the system, We can only Pray we get them at Christmas and Summer, and 2 calls a week. Their Moms refuses to admit what's she's done in our court ordered Family counseling sessions, Tells everyone that she never abandoned her kids for 5 days when she left suicide notes, abandoned cat, we put posters out, Police looking for her, 6 days later after we went to get kids got emergency custody she shows up with ex has her ex in laws kidnaps little ones throw them in trunk, we get them back, but in her mind still to this day with NEW RICH MAN, NEW JOB, THEY ALL BELEIVE WE KIDNAP KIDS AND SHE'S NOW GETTING THEM BACK, SEE ITS ALL ABOUT HER NOT THE CHILDREN, SOME PARENTS ARE SICK! WHY WON'T ANYONE LISTEN TO THE CHILDREN!!!! SO SAD FOR ALL CHILDREN! STUPID SYSTEM!!!
I dont give a flip about the foster parents feeling like the system failed them or that they feel unheard. I dont care about the biological mothers rights. The important thing is the trauma the poor innocent child is going through. They are destroying this poor boy and they dont give a crap. I hope someday they figure it out and t hAunts them!
We have a foster child right now that has been out of her parents custody for 5 years. We have filed for termination of parental rights. It would be devastating if she had to go back. I pray that this little boy doesn't become lost in all of this and comes out the bigger person.
I know how the kid feels,growing up being raised by foster parents for most of your life no then being taken away is like being taken away from your real parents and put with people you don't know at all...If his mom couldn't take care of him when he was a baby then what makes them think she's gonna be able to now?
i was raised in the system and it sucks but they shouldn't have done that...
and I aged out about two or three years ago at 18...
My sister and I lived with loving foster parents for four years. We were adopted by another family when I was almost 12 and my sister was 10.They too were great parents. My natural father had left us and my natural mom had a nervous breakdown that is why we were in foster care.I was so glad that my sister and I got to stay together. When I was in my twenties I found my birth mom and brought her to live around us. She was excepted by my adopted and foster mom as family, We have been so blessed to have all of these parents in our lives. I also found out through Ancestry that my birth father had two sons who he also did not raise. With the help from God they too are in my life . I now have only my 90 year old foster mom left who I love dearly. The children`s service did not tell my foster mom that we were leaving their home until the day before we were adopted.without knowing about who or where we were going. They were so worried about us for awhile until someone told them where we were living. My foster dad said," I know those people and they are good people." Life has all kinds of twists and turns, just trust God that he has a plan for ones life.
Foster children that have been in foster care that long of a time should not be returned and have their whole world turned upside down!!! It's not fair to the foster parents or especially the child!!! To me it's equivalent to child abuse!!!!!!
The biological mother is clearly not looking out for the children's emotional status that will cement a memory of a love that gies away forever. I wasnt a fodter child, but my dad left me at age 5 ,and the physiological impact it had on me was etched forever.
The fostering family should have known from the beginning, that child would be leaving their family to somewhere unless they had adopted him which they should have done a long time ago jusy for the sake of what it doing to the young teenager now.
Department of Child and Family Services needs to be looked at. We have our grandaughter now, but for how long? They openly say their goal is for them to go back to mom. Mom is a horrible parent. Why is mom put before the kids? If they are in a better situation, leave them there. In my opinion, who cares about mom? The kids don't have a voice.
My sister gave us her son at the hospital. She had seen him 5 times in 3 yrs. We had power if attorney over him and her other child who lived with an 80yr. Woman. She asked me for $100 one day. After paying her for 3yrs to keep this child I said no. She asked for an over night visit for him and his brother. I didn't get to see him for 1yr. Nothing I could do. He is now 5yrs and still we only get to see him 3 or 4 times a year. He can't see us because he still cries and tells his mom and dad he wants to be with us. People have kids and think that they can bounce them around and that giving birth to these kids gives them that right . It doesn't these kids have feelings. I feel if you keep a child for one year you should then have the right to adopt and the other persons rights terminated. This crap has to stop. This is why these kids are into so much trouble and become drug addicts. Someone has to be a voice for these kids. I am so sorry for this family and the child. I pray God helps them all make it through this.
Anyone convicted of child abuse should lose their kids for good, period. We wouldn't force a woman back to an abuser and we know RARELY abusers change...maybe tactics of abuse sometimes but it's still abuse. We are GAMBLING that they won't abuse them again?? Come on and have some common sense!!!!
We had a foster child for 5 months. His Mother was given her rights back to him even though she had lost her rights for abuse of her other 2 kids? Found out later that he was left alone for days at 11 years old while Mom went off and did her thing. Because she had moved to a different State, no one tracked him. Except us. She was later stabbed to death by one of her wonderful boyfriends. The 3 kids are fine now. Have done a great job of building their lives. The foster system gives birth parents too much power. They should lose their rights if they prove they can't do the job.
Some of my grandchildren are safe, but one I worry about constantly. Our daughter has had 5 children, by 5 different men. The oldest one we raised from birth, who is now an adult and doing well. The 2nd, a boy, was taken by his paternal grandparents at 18 mos old, he had been beaten by his mother for crying; he was hungry & unbeknownst to us, they were homeless, the 3rd child has been with us & her brothers off and on for years, mom in jail, mom doing drugs while the kids live in swill and fend for themselves at 5&3 yrs old. Men & drugs, so much more important. The last time they were taken away, the boy went with his paternal grandparents & the girl who is now 16, wound up in mental health. Even after all of that, mom gets her back, mom is a known prostitute and drug user. She is withdrawn & it is believed by many family members, ripe for suiside. The last child is very fortunate, she gave her up at birth to a sweet couple, whom we had the pleasure of meeting. They were so thrilled to have her and promised she would have a wonderful life, I pray it's so. Some would say 4 out of 5 were saved, but the one is carrying a burden that the rest of them have escaped. We don't know who her dad is, so we couldn't even help her that way. My heart breaks for that little girl. We love you, sweet one & we're so sorry the system failed you repeatedly.
Did the "mother" prove she had contact with the child in all those years? Did she prove she can provide a better life for the child? Did she prove she can provide for the child? Can she prove that SHE is a better parent for the child? After 9 yrs I would sue & sue the system for deliberately ruining the child's life!!