The gentle, smiling face of Dr. Jumana Nagarwala has been reappearing in my Facebook feed. Dr. Nagarwala is the Detroit area emergency room physician who has been arrested and charged with Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) of two little girls.
According to the World Health Organization, Female Genital Mutilation “comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genital organs for non-medical reasons.” This practice is perpetuated on girls and women by other women, particularly their mothers.
Female Genital Mutilation is a barbaric demonstration of true misogyny and makes this mother of four daughters recoil in horror and disgust. The practice centers around disrespect for female bodies and surgically altering them to control women's sexuality.
I am unashamedly a Christian and raised our daughters with a Christian worldview that includes an understanding that their bodies are beautifully and wondrously created by God for mutually satisfying sexual experiences reserved for marriage.
Inside this boundary of marriage, sex is an opportunity like no other for intimacy, creative expressions of love for each other, and participation with the Creator of Life in bringing children into the world. While for Christians there are also eternal truths in the marital relationship, the one aspect of human sexuality that tends to be ignored is the pleasure God intended for women in how he designed our bodies.
Feminists are strangely silent about Female Genital Mutilation. Meanwhile, media and cultural commentators have perpetuated a lie that Christians view sex and the female body as shameful and reserved only for procreation. Nothing could be further from the truth. Here are four Biblical passages that illustrate why:
1) Proverbs 5:18-19 (NKJV) “Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times: And always be enraptured with her love.”
God intends for our intimate relations to provide mutual joy and for the Christian woman to enjoy using her feminine assets to bless her husband.
2) Song of Soloman 1:4 (NIV) “Take me away with you-let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.”
The bride in this verse expresses intense desire to be taken to bed by her husband. For the Christian wife there is freedom to express passion for her husband.
3) I Corinthians 7:3 (NIV) “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and each woman to her husband.”
There should be a mutual give and take, respecting each other's sexual needs. Sexual fulfillment in a Christian marriage is to be a two-way street.
4) 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.”
Understanding and respect for the wife in every area of her life, including her sexuality, is a big deal to God. To disrespect her can be a cause of unanswered prayer.
I gave birth to 11 wonderful children. Many times when I was waddling around the grocery store hugely pregnant with a gaggle of children in tow, someone would invariably point to my bulging belly and ask, “Don't you know what causes that?” I would always smile mischievously and announce, “Sure do, that is why I have so many.”
My children heard that many times and grew up knowing their father and I loved each other dearly and enjoyed every aspect of our marriage.
The thought that any religious or cultural rite would rob any woman of the full pleasure of intimacy with her husband sickens me. The thought of purposely denying my beautiful daughters God's gift of sexual pleasure in marriage by forcing them to undergo a procedure that would permanently destroy that capability is repulsive.
If feminists won't speak out about this atrocity, this very satisfied Christian wife will.