Amy Krouse Rosenthal has lived an phenomenal life. The author and filmmaker spends her days creating beautiful books and crafts in Chicago. Her social media feed is filled with extraordinary ways to use words and color.
— Amy Krouse Rosenthal (@missamykr) October 6, 2015
Her latest work, a singles ad for her husband in The New York Times, is nothing short of a masterpiece.
Amy has been happily married to Jason Brian Rosenthal for 26 years. She wrote that she expected to be married for another 26 years together.
— Amy Krouse Rosenthal (@missamykr) November 30, 2015
But nearly two years ago, on September 5, 2015, she found out she was dying of ovarian cancer. She wrote that all of her plans were suddenly changed:
“No wonder the word cancer and cancel look so similar.”
The couple quickly slipped into what she coined “Plan Be” mode, where they focused on simply existing. For fear that her husband would continue in this mood and mourn her loss forever, she decided to write about the successful life they’ve lived together.
“He is an easy man to fall in love with,” she writes. “I did it in one day.”
Her open love letter to her potential successor begins like this:
“I have never been on Tinder, Bumble or eHarmony, but I’m going to create a general profile for Jason right here, based on my experience of coexisting in the same house with him for, like, 9,490 days.
First, the basics: He is 5-foot-10, 160 pounds, with salt-and-pepper hair and hazel eyes.
The following list of attributes is in no particular order because everything feels important to me in some way…”
Amy and Jason met through family friends. They watched each other grow up and knew they were a good match for each other. Right away, Amy knew he was the man she wanted to marry. They’ve lived a life filled with love ever since:
“Here is the kind of man Jason is: He showed up at our first pregnancy ultrasound with flowers. This is a man who, because he is always up early, surprises me every Sunday morning by making some kind of oddball smiley face out of items near the coffeepot: a spoon, a mug, a banana.”
Together they’ve had three children: Justin, Miles, and Paris. They are all now in college. And she loves the father he is.
“He is an absolutely wonderful father. Ask anyone. See that guy on the corner? Go ahead and ask him; he’ll tell you. Jason is compassionate — and he can flip a pancake.”
Amy said her boys often borrow their dad’s clothes and her daughter likes to attend music gigs with him. They have a very close family.
More than anything she wishes she could have more time with Jason and her kids. But since she can’t, she’s written the ad in hopes that someone will read it and fill the empty void she’ll leave behind.
Though she doesn’t end her post on this point, it just might be the one that resonates most with readers: “Wait. Did I mention that he is incredibly handsome? I’m going to miss looking at that face of his.”