Adults Supporting Youth Through Crisis and Loss
On the news we see headlines of crisis situations such as school shootings, violence and natural disasters. But what is the outcome when these events happen in our community, school, family or 4-H club? It then becomes…

On the news we see headlines of crisis situations such as school shootings, violence and natural disasters. But what is the outcome when these events happen in our community, school, Family or 4-H club? It then becomes more personal and closer to home.
As parents, volunteers and community members, we instinctively want to reach out to those who experience a loss, whether it is natural or due to a crisis. The National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement provides resources and support for schools, youth organizations, faith-based groups and others when Children and families face times of crisis and loss. Their publication, “After a loved one dies,” provides thought-provoking tips and suggestions, such as:
Crying can be helpful. It’s okay to cry and be sad. Have tissues around and available, reinforce that everyone cries and that it is normal. When crying, feeling sad is where their emotional space is, so they feel better. The old “stiff upper lip” advice isn’t helpful for anyone and can be detrimental.
Remembering that it’s tough to talk at times. Young people might be afraid of hurting or upsetting the adults or others around them. Encourage space for conversation, whether it is in a car or on a walk. Middle school youth and teens might be more comfortable talking with friends. Keep the door open for conversation but show respect when they don’t want to talk about everything all at once.



